Saturday I went to the cinema to see the second part of the diptych Brizzi, "Males Females against" I wanted to see to what extent the stereotypical image of the two genres could get, to comedy and tear smiles.
Not that I expected a socio-anthropological documentary on gender differences, but even such a blaze of clichés. I came out dejected.
The common thread throughout the film, which served as a trade union between the different episodes (with peaks of authoritarianism in some real!) was to emphasize how the women to claim all costs to change their comrades, but with guilt, expressed tenderly in the episode, played by Luciana Litizzetto as a manipulator of other people's lives, that "reprograms" in his like the life of her husband - taking advantage of a memory leak - exacerbated by the fact that it is devoted only to Juventus, friends and, (a script) lover.
really have this image of our men, as eternal Peter Pan, unable to remember an important date, only fans of football, fantasy football, friends (who location and bar, game table or rock band does not matter), which are likely to awkwardly hit a light pole, because lost in fixing the seat of a twenty?
And men really like harpies live there, acting like children who have made a prank, having to live a lie because otherwise fear of being subjected to reprimand or, at worst, of being driven out of the house?
And then, if you move away from us, because we have not been complied with or betrayed or whatever, when he returned with his tail between his legs, repentant and transformed (after demonstrating worse) we are really happy to start again, knowing that the input it was only the wish of their dying mother in the family wants to see reunited? It's just that love is seen as a sacrifice of their dreams and passions, by virtue of a quiet life?
All these questions have filled my thoughts and all this is told in the film, with almost all instill a happy ending, with women who understand that perhaps they are to exaggerate and become involved in and complicit ... better late than ever. Men apologize for misdeeds and fall within the daily routine. And they all lived happily ever after??
The room was packed, mostly couples, and I imagined what thoughts crossed their minds at certain times laughter through gritted teeth: it is true it is a film (and one of the worst I've seen lately), but does represent a slice of life, and apparently those clichés hiding at the bottom of small truths.
Some bad habits take root every day, thanks to the routine, the unwillingness to confront the things steadily and assiduously.
You may not want to be with another with the hope of being able to do this change, hoping that by osmosis falls in love with things that we like (and this applies to both male and female). You may be respecting the diversity of the other couples, but not barely tolerated, because after some minutes in time trouble, lasted for years, they become unbearable.
Conventional wisdom has a funny saying that goes "the oaks are not lemons."
The most wise of us, knows that the other will never be anything other than what it is, but our unconscious is likely to hold your hand until the end.
What can you do?
If we place ourselves in kind of conflict does not get out alive: they will always be those who go crazy for a ball on a green lawn and we lose those hours to make the rounds of the shops and talk about unnecessary things.
The relationship can and must rely on other communication channels.
The complicity of a couple is something that is alien to the passions, is something that is based on the satisfaction of mutual needs deep and true.
In relationships at the beginning we need to ask sincerely if there are other issues that bother us, without putting our heads in the sand and wait for better times. In this case it needs to be addressed immediately and seek a joint solution in two, if it is modifiable aspects, or reluctantly, decide to listen to the wise that "knows" that the developments will not be rosy.
In-standing relationships, raises the question "on what basis did we get here?"
not make the mistake of "throwing the baby out with the bathwater."
I think there is a chance to meet (and I read it the happy ending a bit 'dull and obvious the film), as long as there is reduced to pretending that nothing has happened.
need commitment, responsibility, will, courage.
It is two to enjoy but also to make mistakes, and more so to begin again, and then be faced, trying to find out what has happened, as well blame the passage of time, which is never solely responsible.
We are not content to say "he / she has done / to such" because it can be a defense against actually see what we can reveal the soul of the other.
crisis, any crisis, it can really represent a new opportunity, provided that two of us wanting to cross the ford to the mainland.
virginia
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